Kelan ka mag-aasawa?

Woman shaming is so real! Growing up in our culture everything becomes normal kahit hindi naman dapat. Napakahirap maging babae sa kultura natin kasi you are always not enough or you are always the villain. Magsisimula sya while you are still studying people will start judging at sometimes wala talaga silang filter, I remember being told before "Ikaw eh mabubuntis at di na mag-aaral diba?" imagine hearing that at 14. Tapos kapag working kana at may boyfriend lahat naman sila kukulitin ka kung kelan ka mag-aasawa and worse kapag matagal na kayo ito naman maririnig mo "madami akong kilalang ganyan sobrang tagal di naman sa simbahan natuloy naghiwalay din" or "bakit kaya ayaw ka pakasalan ng boyfriend mo baka may hinahanap pa yan sa iba" oh diba! At kapag kinasal na kayo syempre yung paborito ng lahat "kelan kayo mag-aanak?". Honestly I thought it will all stop kapag may anak nako pero it did not 🥹 after I gave birth to my son the immediate question was "formula or breast feeding ka?" and then the unsolicited advise comes after. 

Let me quote Ms. Curtis on this "I think I should take this opportunity that the press should stop asking that to any woman, because you don’t know what they’re going through," 

Lahat ng bagay that was mentioned above are private, pagbo-boyfriend, paga-asawa, paga-anak, pagbe-breastfeed they are all private kasi they are all personal choices kung gagawin natin o hindi natin gagawin and the reason behind we will always never know lalo na kung hindi natin personally nararanasan, empathy vs sympathy lang yan ika nga. Bakit kapag ba hindi ako breastfeeding mom masama nakong ina? Or kapag hindi ako stay at home mom masama nakong mother? We have to stop this unfiltered remarks and be more sensitive and supportive sa pinagdadaanan ng mga kababaihan, yes! most especially women kasi mas madaming requirements sa kanila. Kailangan magaling ka maglaba, magluto, maglinis ng bahay at mas mabuti kung may work ka and that is just the first layer kasi nakakaloka talaga ang iba pang requirements. 

Cheers to womanhood at sa lahat na piniling maging woman, we are stronger than we think and let us not let judgement change the way we want to live our lives. Lavarn!